I try and be kind of course but it’s not so easy when I get irritated. Last week while at the hairdresser with my 21 year old daughter, she helped me understand that the words may be all right but the tone falls short. As in, “My daughter is a blonde––– those streaks you added are brown. Please correct this.” The words were okay but there was an irritation and a certain demanding quality to my tone that was not kind. I’m meditating on the Dali Lama’s statement, “Kindness is my religion.” This is what I am saying YES to today.
I’ve seen the research and I know that when you smile it makes you feel better but it can have the same effect on someone else. I found this out when I was being extraordinarily challenged with legal issues, and felt quite beaten down. As I was walking through the courthouse, a woman I didn’t know smiled warmly and broadly at me. I was so touched by her smile that tears formed in my eyes for I sensed that I wasn’t completely alone for the smile of a stranger had comforted me.
I don’t think there is any point in being negative, because everything happens for a reason. Even the difficult parts of my life have molded me into who I am. No matter what the circumstances, I want to be the best person I can be. The world doesn’t need any more complaining negative people, it needs people who accept life and appreciate that life is guiding them. I ride whatever waves are coming in. Like Gandhi I try to be the change I want to see.
When Louise Hay was asked what is the most powerful exercise for transformation, she suggests doing mirror work. One of my all time favorite exercises involves doing a forgiveness practice in front of a mirror. This mirror work is covered thoroughly in my first book “Star Quality.” Essentially what you do is stand in front of a mirror, look into your eyes, and say “I forgive myself completely.” It’s not important that you know what you are forgiving yourself for, but it is important that you say it from your heart. Our biggest problem is that we are judgemental and don’tknow how to fully love ourselves. This exercise allows you to forgive yourself for all the times you’ve criticized yourself and made yourself feel badly. Try it. Stand in front of a mirror and say “I, (your name), forgive myself completely.” It’s freeing and it’s nourishing on a very deep level.
Positive emotions and good health have a strong link. In a new study by the Journal of Psychological Science, we find that positive emotions affect the health of people around the world. And, amazingly, contraty to the beliefs of researchers the study found that health and positive emotions like enjoyment, love, and happiness were stronger in countries whose GDP was not particularly strong. In other words, the GDP of Malawi is $900 per year, and they have a better connection between health and positive emotions than citizens of the US. Let’s pick it up America; we need to give up our worrying and negative thinking and let ourselves live in a naturally positive place. Surely we can do as well as the Malawi!
Now here is an example of the Power of Yes at work: One Fund Boston raises over $20 million from the sale of their “Boston Strong” T-shirts to help fund the recovery of the victims of Boston’s recent tragedy. They never expected to raise this much money, but it just goes to show how a little effort can yield powerful results when your “yes” is aligned with the power of love and service. Way to go!!
No matter what shows up in your life, when you say “yes”, you are fully in the present to receive what life is offering you. It may not be what you want in that moment but on the other hand, it may be exactly what you need. You can always find a yes in any situation.
Consider as The Power of Yes tells us on page 16, “Life guides you to YES. A good way to approach life is when a situation occurs, ask yourself what is this person trying to teach me?” Doing this will allow you to be fully present in this moment.
At the beginning of 2012, as you set your intentions for this new year, remember that the Power of YES tells us to CHOOSE your best thought and your best feeling. As you regularly choose your highest and best feeling, and your highest and best thought, you’ll find you not only have more energy, but you will notice that you also have acquired a sense of gratitude. From a place of gratitude, you’ll want to share, to give back.
This year,, “What is your contribution? How do you give back? Oor pay it forward? ” At YES Worldwide, we have chosen a project near and dear to our hearts, helping survivors of sexual abuse speak out and find the justice they have been seeking. Our goal, through Victims Get Vocal, a non-profit 501c3, is to raise public awareness about sexual molestation crimes and how our justice system can do a better job prosecutingattackers and holding them accountable. You can find out more about our project at www.victimsgetvocal.com. What is your contribution?
~ Christen Brown
Be sure to check out my recent LA Talk Radio with Dr. Michele and her weekly ‘On the Couch’ radio show, talking about the Power of Yes and how we can engage it in our daily lives. Just click on http://www.latalkradio.com/Drmichelle.php and scroll down to Friday, December 23rd. You can either play directly from the site or download.